[Jas 4:9 KJV] 9 Be
afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to
mourning, and your joy to heaviness.
This initially
sounds like a strange thing for the God Who promises joy---Who
reminds us that the “joy of the Lord is our strength”--to
command. And then we have Jesus’ words from the “Sermon on the
Mount”:
[Mat 5:4 KJV] 4
Blessed are those who mourn: for they
shall be comforted.
It doesn’t take
very long, living on this earth, to accumulate some sadness. Many
children have already been afflicted with death, neglect or addiction
of a parent; or divorce and animosity of their parents. Certainly by
adolescence, most hearts have been afflicted with sorrow. Jesus was
afflicted with it also. He said “My soul is swallowed up in
sorrow, even unto death.” [Mt. 26:38]
We lose our loved
ones. And we are alienated from some of them due to the divisive
influences of the world. The more sensitive and compassionate the
soul, the more intimate and fulfilling the relationships, the deeper
these sorrows seem to penetrate. What should we do with this sadness
and sorrow? We should allow ourselves to feel it, in its darkest
depths. We do not have to fear it. It is holy. It is an aspect of our
love. How could there be love, in the deepest sense, without sorrow?
Christ’s sorrow, as ours, was His Love. In our fear we try to hold
ourselves above this sorrow. It feels like an endless pit that we
dare not allow ourselves to sink into. We may never come out of it!
But God speaks otherwise. Mourn, weep, and feel the heaviness of
sorrow. Allow yourself to sink all the way down to what feels like
the bottom of the pit; for there you will discover that it is not a
pit at all but rather a dark tunnel that you must move through.
Jesus, Who has been all the way down into feeling forsaken by the God
He had unfailingly obeyed His entire life, will be with you. He
allowed Himself to feel this. He did not try to hold Himself above
this sorrow so as to avoid casting a cloud of doubt over others’
trust in the God Who conquers all. He felt the sorrow and the
forsakeness. And He arose from the grave as an eternal beacon of
hope for all those who suffer similarly! There is, without doubt,
Light on the other side of the tunnel of sorrow and grief. And it
transforms us into more of everything we truly want to be. How could
it be otherwise, since it is being allowed by the God Who is Love.
When we mourn, we discover that it is just as He said: we are
comforted. We can still love—even better than before we entered the
dark night of the soul. Then we discover as an inner experience what
was spoken through Jeremiah:
[Jer 31:13 KJV] 13
Then shall the virgin rejoice in the dance, both young men and old
together: for I will turn their mourning into joy, and will comfort
them, and make them rejoice from their sorrow.